ConSensual Team


In a previous life I was an academic with a doctor in philosophy on queer politics, and then for a number of decades deeply enjoyed working as director in NGOs. Yet, I always wanted to be a coach and trainer too, which I did as of 2016 with an ICF accredited coaching certificate. I still work a lot in companies as a trainer, always focussed on people’s potential, and I enjoy this very much. However, actually, the call of the universe made me leave management and NGOs behind not to give trainings but to do what I love most to bring into this world: tantra and (trauma) body work, spreading the love, expansion and phenominal healing capacity of learning how to put and keep ourselves in pleasures states and in connection to the divine - all the time.

I am qualified as a shiatsu practiioner and a body worker, I am a Belgian court registered mediator, and a family constellator. My most beloved qualification is, however, in over 10 years of training in medial work, channelling, and clairvoyance. Training in tantra lifted more than 30 years of depression from my body and finally brought me the chance to expand my body alongside my spirituality with my clear seeing/feeling/hearing/tasting into the 7 worlds and energetic bodies. 

And there is another important side to me:  I combine all of that with also being a conscious kinkster. I have over 20 years of experience in organising and living (queer) BDSM, myself being a slave and a master, a drill sergeant and a devote sailor boy, a slut and an innocent lover. I specialise in magic energy body work with full presence, and love to take people into life changing worlds of healing, pleasure, and expansion with ropes, floggers, or impact play combined with simple but penetrating energetic touch that allows expansion or trauma release. Finally founding ConSensual in 2020, the first school of body consent based tantric BDSI was a dream come true. Oh yes and very important: I am a proud trans man with a non-binary and pansexual nature.

Personally I thrive on bringing a unique blend of neuroscience insights and body focus, a deep ongoing learning attitude, care, presence, love, and excitement for the beautiful divine potential of each person. I am myself devoted to obedience to the Goddess, following the path of Jesus and Mary Magdala. I have deep faith in our spirituality rooted in our body temple. I live a tantric BDSI life of ongoing daily intimacy and expansion practice centred around faith in the divine. The main job in my life is the expansion of my temple and expansion of seeing the divine in others and myself.


In a previous life that feels like it is ages ago I was a criminologist and worked in many different organisations and companies. It is not me, so I stopped in 2018, due to health and because my soul was calling me in other directins. In ConSensual I work as administrator, but more importantly, as a body worker, constellator, program reflector, facilitator, love angel, assistant, music designer or whatever else my heart calls for to contribute.

By training I am a shamanic practitioner and qualified body worker. I am in essence about love and relating in itself, in all of its expressions and forms, constructing my soul path along expansion of feeling. I see dispersion of light, love and relating as my actual day job.  In my tantric body and couple work I bring a unique blend of presence, breath work and sexual energy flow to allow you to fully fall into healing, rediscovering your light, and/or pleasure, being held in safety and – maybe for the first time in your life – feeling deeply loved and seen. Together with Jonathan I offer work on conscious relating and deep intimacy for couples, constellation, and individual body work.


A whole team of volunteers works in ConSensual dedicating their time, love, and immense professional skill to our retreats with unwavering loyalty. Some of the permanent team present themselves below.


My essence is soft power, empathetic, sensitive, careful, clear, passion for connection of body, mind and soul, with myself and the other. As a beta, I like structure. My (academic) background helps me lead sessions and groups with clarity, peace and humor (and blue eyes ?). People say about me that I radiate peace and that I know how to create a safe bed, and that I have a nice combination of masculine strength, sensitivity and clear communication. For several years I have been facilitating tantric practice and reflection groups, with playfulness, structure and safety, and I give individual (massage) sessions. Since a few years the love of tantric work with rope / shibari and BDSI has been added, see my website (in Dutch).  I am happy to be in the Consensual team. BDSI brings me to be more in touch with my masculine site, to surrender to (the sacred part of) life, to be more playful, be more present and accept what is. And for what it's worth: I am for more than 20 years on the path of personal development, bodywork, breathwork, dance, tantra, haptonomy...


When Paul Salverda, another team member, told me about ConSensual in 2021, I knew right away this was the place for me. When I drove home in my car in December 2021, I made love to my steering wheel. I had so much soft energy inside of me, I was truly amazed. After that first weekend I signed up to be an assistant and had an amazing year with Jonathan and the team! Being a tantra facilitator myself, I love working with Tantric BDSI. I think it is the most beautiful way of personal development. You learn a lot about yourself in just one day when you find yourself working with submission and dominance. The tantric way of doing this, completely going into delay, surrender and being fully present and conscious, is what makes it so beautiful. I love to facilitate opening up about our intimate desires and taking away taboos around it. I’m looking forward to my second year as a ConSensual assistant, working alongside Jonathan and Linde and the other assistants, and feeling my juiciness and soft feminine power in this line of work. If you want to know something about me, visite my dutch website Paul and I are very inspired by Jonathan’s work and organise our own weekends in the Netherlands about Conscious Power Exchange. If you would like to talk or share something about what Tantric BDSI does for you, or can do for you, I’m always open to talk about that. Feel free to contact me. Love Bien


I have always been an explorer. My journey has led me via plantmedicine to exploring Reiki, bodydearmouring, breathwork, deep deep consent work via the system of somatic consent and recently Tantric BDSI. Along the journey I have dived into non-duality, Taoism and been working as a Human Design coach for a number of years now. I have stepped away from calling myself a seeker of truth, because that implies that there is something to be found. Instead I try to live truth, to the best of my capabilities, and sometimes I utterly fail. 

I walk along with people on their path, if they ask me, be it as a coach, sharing from my own experiences and reflecting on their situation. Mostly I see myself as the one who throws pebbles in the water and watch the ripples appear and move outward, all by themselves.

I believe in the power of the Self, the capability of healing ourselves, with the right help and being open to live showing us the way, if we let it and notice the sign along the way. At the same time, I believe in the power of connection, and the importance of working together on healing ourselves, so that we all may grow.

Should you want to know more about me, or work with me, you can find me here: (dutch only for now). Feel welcome to reach out if you feel a resonance.


In my twenties, I followed my curiosity about life and the energies that are around us. This led me to train in Reiki Healing, which subsequently led me down the path of self-development and practices to expand consciousness.About 15 years ago, I dived deep into the world of personal development and spirituality by doing trainings in NLP, creative dynamic coaching, witchcraft, (trance)dance and women's work. After my burn out, energy- and shadowwork became a regular personal practice. And in 2013 I decided to start my own practice combining coaching, massage and Reiki treatments.

The next step in my development was learning about my sexual energy and mastering the embodiment of lifeforce energy. I was intrigued by the felt sense of aliveness and found a connectedness to myself and the world around me like I had never experienced before.

I immersed myself in yearprogramm's of Classical Tantra, Wild Tantra, Tantra Yoga and Neo Tantra. Simultaneously I've started to assist at the retreats, expanding my abillity to hold space for people's processes and maintain the purity of the energyfield. Bringing in, my unconditional love for every-body.

At ConSensual and in my individual sessions, I love to support the process of stripping off old layers blocking the energy flow. I love to create spaces where people can be raw and authentic and expand into the love that they are. Deeply honering the embodiment of divinity. In my individual sessions, I now mainly focus on (Tantric) bodywork and de-armouring,  expanding a person's energy field so Spirit can shine through. At ConSensual, I am a fellow traveller who can contribute to your journey. By helping you to step out of your comfort zone, explore new realms of aliveness and sensuality, and help you work on your intentions for expansion.

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