But be not mistaken: it is not about feeling better all the time. If you want to understand spiritual orgasmic states, you need to understand and feel your pain fully, your boredom, your security mechanisms, your boundaries. We come to Oneness via uniting polarities, it needs both sides. So ConSensual is not about making you feel better, it is about accompanying you on a pathway that makes you radically better at feeling, and with that healing and subsequently expanding yourself. 

So what is Tantra? Tantric arts show people the way towards a rich and fulfilled life, towards the experience of divine bliss that is available to ALL of us, not just the selected few and not just for a short period of time. It is a form of meditative state that circulates sexual energy putting your brain into A-wave and complete presence here and now (the only moment the human body unites with the unity of divine consciousness). This is the only natural biological state in which our brain security system is quiet and through body bliss states we can travel and see or better feel our actual state of complete presence and divine nature (and that of everybody else, no matter what they look like or seem to be on the outside). The practice aims to enlarge your container to circulate more energy. To get into more embodiment we train to not aim for feeling better but for radically getting better at feeling. Our bodies are always right, it is us who overstep, do not listen, contract our heart, and commit the “sin” of body negativity. Tantric practice teaches you to stay in high energy states and not go for quick fix gratification that throws the energy out of your body. Become and stay orgasmic in the whole body, rather than be driven by stuckness in the lower body. So in a nutshell, the form of Tantra we invoke at ConSensual is a deep meditation, a holy communion and a dance with the force of creation. 

And what the heck has this got to do with BDSI? First of all I personally made up the acronym (and was the very first to ever do so). It means Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Impact Play. It is sacred temple kink, with an utterly deep spiritual meaning. BDSI practices multiply the ability to stir the energy and make it flow, the tantric approach makes sure we get to circulate it all the way up into the heart, throat, third eye and crown chakra. Every implement and form of play has multiple potentials: from self-love dance to shamanic drummed heart chakra opening, floggers are soft, caressing and immensely powerful energetic transmitters of love and presence. Roping (bondage) is the pinnacle of playing a body like a harp without ever touching the skin, holding in presence so that another might expand into restriction and fall into the deepest sense of care taking as we only know from being in mother’s womb. Consent – well actually even discovering whether you can feel enough of your body wisdom to find out what your consent is – and body-heart led negotiation are essential practice fields of Tantric BDSI; fully understanding your power center for standing up for yourself and taking your place as well as actually getting what it means to surrender control and be led by the energy of sheer life itself are some of the most mind blowing potentials. And authentically embodying your own eroticism and every last inch of any hidden fantasy is nothing short of a miracle. And just to say it again: this is utterly serious business of transformation, self-development, healing, spirituality and falling into your authentic true self – so expect a sh…load of processes to happen. Yet, we believe that you may also have it with ease, fun, laughter, bliss and play if you do it in the sacredness of your own temple. 

With Love
Jonathan